Education is one of the prime functions of
parenthood. Shortly after our offspring
is born, the nurturing of the child with love and the very basics of life are
the initial lesson. What happens
thereafter can vary greatly from parent to parent.
There are many terrific parents in our society. However, it seems that for many others, parenting pretty much ends not long after a child’s birth. That certainly wasn’t the case for me and my son David.
In the early 1990s, I did a story on a top high school diver who was home schooled until about seventh grade. Upon attending school, she was ranked #1 in her class for two straight years! I then researched and found that, once in school, the average home schooled child was in the 93rd percentile academically. That knowledge and the strong bond I had already developed with David made his early education choice an easy one.
In addition to writing and working part-time at
Western Union, I home schooled David from most of September 1994-June
2000, and did likewise with two of his half-brothers for most of those last
three years.
During home schooling, the children and I participated
in countless events and activities through the North County and West County Christian Home
School groups, and they were the only children whose primary teacher was a
male. I handled all the teaching after the first three weeks. We were also the only ones who didn’t use a
pre-packaged curriculum. Finally,
instead of just doing the required 1,000 units in a calendar year, with 600
being core units, we averaged about 1,300 core units of some 1,700 total units.
A few years later, I attended one of the monthly meetings of St. Louis Mensa, held at the Washington University extension on Forsyth. Back then, there was a special guest speaker or forum based on a different subject. I will never forget the one that concentrated on various forms of teaching.
The panel was represented by teachers and administrators of public and private schools, magnet schools, and Montessori schools. There is just one thing I currently recall about the exchange between panel members and the crowd of about 50 Mensa audience members.
There were a couple panel members who, when asked about home schooling, immediately brought up the anti-socialization argument while offering no positive comments about home schooling.
At that time, I not only suffered from large group anxiety, but also had an extreme phobia about anything that resembled public speaking. Nevertheless, I stood up, knees and voice shaking, and gave all on hand a detailed account of what home schooling could mean to a child. Not only can it be a favorable way of helping keep a child's distance from many of the bad influences of life, but it's also a prime way of helping him build self-esteem and self-reliance.
I also firmly believe that home schooling is the best means of teaching a child HOW to think and not WHAT to think regarding the heavy doses of indoctrination evident at many schools.
I also firmly believe that home schooling is the best means of teaching a child HOW to think and not WHAT to think regarding the heavy doses of indoctrination evident at many schools.
My life has been chock full of hundreds of highlights in writing and work awards, and activities saurrounding sports, travel, social functions, vacation planning, scrapbooking and other creative projects, astronomy, dancing, volunteer work and the like. But home schooling is probably the decision I've made for which I am most proud!
My oldest sister home schooled her son, he never went to public or private school. I agree that home schooling has some distinct advantages, however, they are dependent on the quality of what the parent has to bring to the table. Clearly you are an exceptional individual and capable of providing those things in abundance, but not everyone is. The one thing that my nephew missed out on was social involvement and peer relationships and I knew from the beginning that would be a big disadvantage for him. In the end, each person has to assess their ability to provide what is best to ensure their child gets everything they need to be fully engaged in life. These choices are going to be dependent upon their individual skills and available resources.
ReplyDeleteThanks for your in-depth comments and compliments, Lavrieta! Home schooling may indeed vary by student and also by parent. One of the main points for me is that more and more, schools seem to be indoctrinating our children in WHAT to think instead of HOW to think. The lack of socialization can be a bad thing, but it can also be a good thing, depending on the kinds of experiences that are brought to our children by their peers.
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